Il modo più semplice per comportarsi come si deve ad un play party è di essere gentili. Ci potranno essere persone che fanno delle cose molto sensuali vicino a voi. Lo fanno per il loro piacere non per il vostro. State lontani dall’azione a meno che non siate...
Il “piercing” che significa letteralmente perforazione, viene inteso come l’introduzione di ornamenti in buchi fatti nella pelle, e non si fa solo alle orecchie. Alcuni si fanno forare anche capezzoli, ombelico, sopracciglia, clitoride, pene, labbra...
There are many people who post to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm through the wizvax Anonymous Posting Service, and many others who post from pseudonymous accounts. The reasons are obvious; “kinky sex” in our society is stigmatized, and being openly interested...
Occasionally on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm there is a flurry of email about some event that recently occurred (often in the SF Bay area) at which many net.folks were in attendance, and about the tremendously enjoyable things that transpired there. Then others around...
One way of thinking about whipping is as another way of touching someone. People who are just getting into SM frequently play with spanking; it’s fun to be spanked! It’s a punishment, it’s a strong stimulus, it hurts very pleasurably. But if...
One of the thrills of SM is that it can stretch your limitations. If you enjoy this sort of play, you can naturally find yourself trying more and more new things, accepting greater and greater levels of sensation, doing and feeling more than you’ve ever done or...
Yet Another Hotlist? Aaaaahhhh!!!! But as you may already know, links are a quick way to give something back to spiders stepping through your page. Until I actually have some more stuff worth reading, enjoy. There aren’t many commonly-known sites here; if you...
The Curse of Xanadu is an article in the June ’95 issue of Wired magazine, about a project I was involved with in the early 90s. I am mentioned near the end of the article. There is one quote of mine that makes me outright grit my teeth. It was pretty stupid of...
The simplest way to fit in in a play party is to behave politely. There will be people right in front of you who are doing very sexual things. They are doing them for _their_ pleasure, not for yours. Stay away from the action unless invited to participate– and a...
A volte ricevo dei messaggi che mi chiedono perché ci siano così tanti argomenti su alt.sex.bondage che non hanno a che fare specificatamente con il Bondage. Non sarebbe una bella idea dividere il gruppo in modo che i gay, coloro che “giocano forte”, gli...
This posting came from alt.sex.bondage a couple of years ago (circa 1995). I thought it was worth keeping. Enjoy! (Not all of these are cheap, mind you Creative Toy Sources! Compiled by Tanith Tyrr – share freely, please credit the author Music stores: Metal...
s.s.b-b, like all Usenet groups, has its share of flame wars. Many of them revolve around questions of whether particular BDSM activities are healthy or not (the usual answer: “They’re risky, but it’s possible to do them safely and beneficially, and...
Back in the days of yore, the group for discussing kinky topics was alt.sex.bondage. This group was created in response to a joke, which turned serious once people actually started using the group. But there was never any charter or definition of what was and...
Sometimes people who are attracted by some aspects of SM worry that they will immediately go from enjoying spanking and light bondage to fisting and golden showers. Nothing could be further from the truth. SM is a blanket term for a huge variety of alternative ways to...
Another kind of play, also known as “water sports”. Basically, some people enjoy urinating on their lovers, or having their lovers piss on them. Pissing is really a very intimate thing; your urine is a part of you, it’s warm and wet, it feels good to...
Some people enjoy playing with cutting off their air during heavy scenes. This can be as simple as squeezing someone’s neck while you kiss them deeply, or as complex as a full-head latex hood and gas mask over a straitjacket. As your air is cut off, you can feel...
One perception that some people can have, looking into the scene from outside, is that people are either tops or bottoms. Either you like to dominate, or you like to be dominated. And sometimes novices become confused, because they’re excited by _both_...
A personal experience of religion, and some ongoing questions. Losing My Religion I was raised a Christian. My family went to church more or less every Sunday. The churches were generally old New England stone edifices, stained glass and wood pews. The services were a...
The limits of our thinking, and the shape of our instinct. This essay starts off by discussing the limits of human reasoning, moves into an examination of our basic sub-rational drives (and how we ourselves exploit those drives to survive, with hideous consequences),...
L’idea che qualcuno può farsi è che ogni persona nell’SM sia per forza o Top o Bottom, che voglia dominare o essere dominato. E a volte i principianti ne sono confusi, perchè in realtà sono attratti da entrambi i ruoli. La realtà ancora una volta è che...
Una domanda che mi viene posta sempre più’ spesso, via via che le mie FAQ vengono conosciute in tutto il mondo è :” Non riesco a leggere alt.sex.bondage ma gli argomenti di cui lei parla nelle sue FAQ sembrano molto interessanti. Posso accedere ad...
Es sollte eigentlich für niemanden ein Problem sein, “normales” SM- Spielzeug wie Handschellen, Lederfesseln etc. aus den einschlägigen Sexshops zu beziehen. Für Kreative sind Baumärkte eine wahre Fundgrube, denn dort gibt es Seile, Winden, Klammern und...
It can also be hard to learn to bottom, if what you’re used to is topping. Giving up control, surrendering, can be a difficult thing, when you’re used to holding the reins in your hands. If you find yourself manipulating your top, trying to coerce them...
When first getting into the scene, it can often be somewhat intimidating to try playing with SM, especially if neither of you have done it before. Here’s this wonderful person, who wants you to dominate them. You tie them up, and they’re helpless,...
What are some web sites/books/magazines/organizations/stores/news archives where I can get SM information or toys, or meet people in the scene? Well, time does take its toll on the kinky businesses of the world. This list was always abbreviated but lately it has...
OK, so this may be an under construction thing, but oh well. Some of the topics I plan to get wordy about: The shape of the future: nanotechnology, artificial life, and humanity’s destiny Science fiction malnutrition: where is the good SF? Why can’t...
Computers’ transformation of education is just beginning to gel. [This was a piece I wrote for, potentially, the Intelligent Agent section in Wired. Since writing it I’ve learned a lot about what’s wrong with the sort of cyberphilia that permeates...
Spesso la gente fuori dalla scena non capisce cosa ci sia di attraente nelle cose SM che sembrano provocare dolore. Cosa c’è di gradevole nell’essere picchiati? Dov’è il gusto di avere la pelle segnata? Bene, pensate a questo. Avete mai avuto un...
Il sesso anale, purche’ praticato a modo, e’ altrettanto sicuro di ogni altra forma di sesso. E la gente lo fa perche’ e’ piacevole, infatti l’ano puo’ essere una zona intensamente erogena; anzi sono di gran lunga in numero maggiore...
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Anal Sex, korrekt ausgeübt, ist genau so sicher wie jede andere Form von Sex. Menschen machen es, weil es sich gut anfühlt – der Anus kann eine intensive erogene Zone sein. Tatsache ist, dass wesentlich mehr heterosexuelle Menschen als Schwule Analsex...
Einleitung 1. Was bedeuten B&D, S&M, D&S, top und bottom? 2. Was ist eine Session und “gegenseitige Auseinandersetzung”? 3. Was ist ein Safewort? 4. Wann ist Schmerz kein Schmerz? 5. Was sind einige Grundsätze von sicherem SM? 6. Ist jeder...
Anal sex, practiced properly, is as safe as any other kind of sex. And people do it because it feels good–the anus can be an intensely erogenous zone. In fact, far more straight people than gay people practice anal sex! The anus contains more nerve endings than...
A volte, su a.s.b., qualcuno scrive domandandosi se quello che fa è abbastanza “duro” per poterne parlare. Come può un novellino, che ha appena assaggiato la sua prima sculacciata, pensare di scrivere le sue impressioni, quando c’è là della gente che...
Dieser Abschnitt müsste wesentlich ausführlicher sein. Es wurden jedoch die Informationen, die eine bestimmte Aktion betreffen, in das jeweilige Kapitel übernommen, wo diese Aktion behandelt wird. Es war einfach zuviel Material für ein Kapitel. SM ist meistens Spiel...
[Anmerkung des Übersetzers: Im Originaltext steht für Session “scene”, was korrekt übersetzt Szene oder Auftritt bedeutet. Dieser Ausdruck ist aber in diesem Zusammenhang im Deutschen ungebräuchlich, weshalb wir uns eher für Session entschieden haben....
A question I’ve been getting more and more often as my FAQ spreads outwards into the world is, “I can’t read soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm, but the stuff you talk about in your FAQ sounds really interesting. Are there any ways for me to access...
È un altro tipo di attività, noto anche come “giochi d’acqua” (water sports). Essenzialmente alcune persone amano orinare sui loro amanti, oppure amano che i loro amanti facciano pipì su di loro. Far pipì è una cosa davvero intima: l’urina fa...
Oft verstehen Leute ausserhalb der Szene nicht, wo der Reiz in irgendeiner Sache liegt, die SM-Leute miteinander machen und die schmerzvoll aussehen. Was soll man daran geniessen, wenn man geschlagen wird? Wo ist der Spass, blaue Flecken zu haben? Nun, denke doch...
Often people approach SM with nothing but negative stereotypes in their mind. The will-less slave dominated by the overbearing thoughtless master. The pervert who enjoys being hit because he thinks he deserves no better. These images, negatively charged with...
Diese FAQ sind eine mehr oder weniger wörtliche Übersetzung der (englischsprachigen) FAQ der Newsgruppe soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm. Bei der Auflistung von weiterführender Literatur erschien es jedoch sinnvoll, deutschsprachige Quellen anzugeben, da jene, die Bücher...
Spesso la gente si avvicina all’SM con nient’altro in testa se non stereotipi negativi. Lo schiavo privo di volontà propria dominato dal prepotente, incurante padrone. Il pervertito a cui piace essere picchiato perché pensa di non meritare altro. Queste...
Der engl. Originalbegriff für Transvestismus lautet “cross dressing”. Eine wörtliche Übersetzung dafür ergäbe im Deutschen keinen Sinn und der Begriff der “Verkleidung” drückt nicht aus, dass Männer Frauenkleider oder Frauen Männerkleidung...
Eine Vorstellung, die manche Leute haben können, wenn Sie von aussen die Szene betrachten ist, dass SM-Spieler entweder Top oder Bottom sind. Entweder man dominiert oder man wird dominiert. Und manchmal sind Neulinge verwirrt, weil sie von beiden Möglichkeiten erregt...
This is one of those troublingly general questions that simply begs for a flame war. There is no shortage of kinky people who get turned on by kinky behavior. There is also no shortage of kinky people that don’t. And then there are the kinky people who find some...
Is this all a big cyber-shuck? Several recent books have announced a cyber-backlash. First published was Silicon Snake Oil by Clifford Stoll, then City Lights Books released Resisting the Virtual Life by James Brook and Iain A. Boal. Both works make sobering and...
Lots of reasons. For many people, the knowledge that they are helpless, that someone else can do things with their body and they can’t prevent them, is a powerful turn-on. “I’m going to make you come and there’s nothing you can do about...
Uno dei brividi dell’SM è che può allargare i vostri orizzonti. Se vi piacciono questi giochi vi troverete a sperimentare sempre nuove cose, ad accettare livelli di sensazioni sempre maggiori facendo provare o provando più di quanto abbiate fatto in precedenza....
Moltissime persone lasciano messaggi su alt.sex.bondage tramite il servizio di messaggi anonimi o lasciando degli pseudonimi. Il perchè di questo è ovvio. Tutto quello che è “Bizzarro” è nella società in cui viviamo “bollato” e mettere alla...
Tutte queste cose – abbigliamento erotico e oggetti di qualunque tipo – sono “feticci”. Un feticcio è ogni oggetto che abbia per voi richiami sessuali. Se vi sembra sexy quando lo mettete, o quando lo indossa qualcun altro, allora è un vostro feticcio. Non...
Wann immer man eine englische Newsgruppe oder einen anderen englischen Text zum Thema liest, werden eine Menge englischer Fachausdrücke verwendet, die zum Teil mühsam aus guten Lexika herausgesucht werden müssen. Als kleine Hilfestellung hier eine Liste von oft...
Es handelt sich hierbei um eine (soweit möglich) wortwörtliche Übersetzung ausgewählter Punkte der englischsprachigen FAQ der Newsgruppe soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm. Das Copyright für den Originalinhalt liegt bei (c) 1994 by Johnson Grey, das Copyright der Übersetzung...
Like all alternate sexualities, SM is stigmatized in many ways by most of society. In extreme cases, SM players are prosecuted legally. or persecuted by people who would _like_ to so prosecute them. This section of the FAQ describes some of these ongoing battles. (See...
Often the “hanky code” is mentioned on s.s.b-b. What is it? It’s a tradition in the scene that if you’re into certain types of activities you can indicate them by wearing a handkerchief in either your left or right back pockets. The color...
First questions first. Cutting is the SM practice of using a scalpel or other fine blade to make shallow cuts in the top layer of your partner’s skin. Play piercing is using very fine needles to pierce your partner temporarily, removing the needles at...
Piercings aren’t just done to ears. People on this list have their nipples, navels, eyebrows, clitoris hoods, penises, labia, and other body parts pierced, and bits of metal permanently in the piercings. These are the bare facts, but this practice, it turns out,...
It may be illegal, and it is certainly unwise, to publish “obscene, filthy, or indecent” Internet material without precautions to ensure minors or unwilling viewers can avoid it. I use the label above throughout all my pages, as just such a precaution. If...
Wondering what happiness is? Wonder no more. In late 1994, I read a book named Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, by one Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. The book has had a lasting effect on me, and the concept of flow has worked itself deeply into my thinking. This...
Uno dei problemi relativi all’S/M è la “programmazione” (vedi lavaggio del cervello) della società contro di esso. La nostra cultura non è abituata all’idea che il sesso sia divertente e il voler spingere i propri limiti alla ricerca del...
Alt.sex.bondage. come tutti i gruppi Usenet ha anch’esso la sua parte di polemiche. Molte discussioni vertono sul fatto se particolari attività BDSM siano pericolose. La risposta più comune è :” Possono essere rischiose, ma è possibile farle in modo sicuro...
Molto, c’è molto di divertente. Spesso la consapevolezza di essere completamente impotenti mentre qualcun altro può fare qualsiasi cosa col proprio corpo, senza che possano fare nulla per impedirlo è una forte fonte di eccitazione. “Ti farò venire e non...
Iniziando una “scena” SM può anche accadere che vi sentiate incerti su come procedere, specie se nessuno di voi l’ha mai fatto prima. Siete lì, con questa meravigliosa persona che vuole essere dominata da voi. Voi la legate, ed essa è completamente...
Jeder (o.k., fast jeder) weiss, was ein Fingerfick ist. Es ist extrem genussvoll, entweder im Po oder in der Muschi, von jemanden einen Finger eingeführt zu bekommen. (Wenn Du einem Mann den Finger auf die richtige Art in den Po einführst, wirst Du dadurch seine...
Golddusche ist eine Facette des Spiels, auch bekannt als “Wasserspiele”. Grundsätzlich mögen es manche Leute, auf ihren Partner zu urinieren oder vom Partner angepinkelt zu werden. Pinkeln ist tatsächlich eine ausgesprochen intime Sache. Dein Urin ist ein...
This sizable piece is by Jonathan Peters. Again, this is not my advice; follow these instructions at your own risk. It is likely that the majority of people have no desire ever to be physically restrained. Likely, but unproven – there appears to have been very...
I started writing the FAQ simply because I wanted to answer some common questions. Plenty of other people on the net also like answering questions, and some of them have sent me good Q’s and A’s. Here’s a partial compilation of some answers by Hans...
All these things–erotic clothing or objects of whatever type–are “fetishes”. A fetish is any object which has sexual connotations for you. If it makes you feel sexy to wear it, or to see it on someone else, it’s a fetish. There’s...
SM is often play, and as such is fun! But SM can also get intense and powerful. Here are some useful tips for people just getting started. Emotional safety First of all, communicate. Let your partner know what you want and don’t want. Keep the dialogue going;...
Often people outside the scene don’t see the appeal in any of the things SM people do that look painful. What’s enjoyable about being hit? Where’s the fun in getting bruised? Well, think about this. Have you ever had intense sex and afterwards...
SM è spesso un gioco, e come tale è divertente. Ma può anche diventare un gioco serio, molto intenso. Ecco alcuni consigli utili per chi inizia. Prima di tutto: comunicate! Fate sapere al vostro partner quello che vi piace e quello che non vi piace. Tenete il dialogo...
Questo è un altro modo di porre la domanda precedente. È possibile che esista una non-consensualità consensuale? Cioè può qualcuno essere d’accordo di essere in una situazione dalla quale non può scappare, e vivere in quel modo? Questo argomento può ispirare...
Wenn es erstmals zu einer Session kommt, kann der Versuch, SM zu spielen, vielleicht ein wenig einschüchternd sein. Vor allem, wenn es für beide das erste Mal ist. Hier ist diese wundervolle Person, die von Dir dominiert werden möchte. Du fesselst sie, sie ist...
Einer der Reize von SM ist, das es Deine Grenzen ausdehnen kann. Wenn Du diese Art von Spiel magst, wirst Du automatisch mehr und mehr probieren, immer höhere Stufen der Empfindung akzeptieren und mehr machen und mehr fühlen, als Du jemals zuvor gemacht hast. Aber...
Another fetish many people have is smooth skin, with no body hair. Shaven skin is silky soft, completely and utterly naked, and very vulnerable. Shaven legs, armpits, or genitals can feel very different indeed than hairy ones… and since the name of the game is...
Everyone (well, almost everyone) knows what finger-fucking is. Whether in ass or pussy, it’s terrifically enjoyable to stroke someone inside. (Fingers up a man’s ass, if aimed properly, will tickle his prostate gland, which feels AMAZINGLY good… just...
The upcoming post-modern political upheaval. A political proposition for you: The dominant political issue in the world is not about conservatism versus liberalism, nor about rich versus poor. The driving split is between those who believe there is a single right way...
Come tutti i tipi alternativi di sessualità, anche l’SM è stato bollato in molti modi dalla maggior parte della società. Ci sono dei casi in cui coloro che praticano l’ SM vengono addirittura perseguiti legalmente. In questa sezione delle FAQ andrò a...
A volte su alt.sex.bondage arrivano fiumi di messaggi di party che ci sono stati (specialmente dalla zona di San Francisco) e a cui hanno preso parte molte persone che navigano in Internet che raccontano delle meravigliose cose successe durante l’evento. A quel...
Spesso sui newsgroup si parla del codice del fazzoletto. Di cosa si tratta? È una tradizione della scena che chi è coinvolto in certi tipi di attività lo indichi portando un fazzoletto nella tasca. Il colore indica l’attività, il lato la posizione preferita (a...
Creative Toy Sources! Compiled by Tanith Tyrr – share freely, please credit the author Music stores: Metal...
